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Understanding male sexual responses helps. If a guy ejaculates quickly, he is going to lose his erection, and this refractory phase will last about 20 minutes in a young male. There is absolutely nothing either of them can do to trigger another erection. But, let’s make use of that time. He can spend that 20 minutes stimulating her, whispering sweet nothings, kissing, snuggling, cuddling, hugging, petting, stimulating breasts and genitals orally. 20 minutes of that stimulation and she will be very sexually aroused and he’ll have another erection, and ain’t nobody gonna stop him now.

There are creams and sprays available at sex stores. These are supposed to numb his penis, so he will be less aroused and eager to ejaculate. Many men swear by these creams. I do have a concern. These creams usually contain lidocane, a topical anaesthetic.


Fine and good, but if he uses it then puts a condom on, there is concern that it will weaken the condom. If he does not use a condom, some of this cream will rub off his penis during intercourse, and may numb her vagina. Again, do talk to your partner to check for reactions.

Women often feel that they should be able to do something to help him. Basically, this is his problem, and he needs to solve it himself. You can talk to him about it and lessen the expectation that he must sexually satisfy you every time. You can satisfy yourself, or you can teach him how to stimulate and satisfy you in ways other than penis in vagina intercourse. This reduces the pressure on him, helps him relax, and he has some sense of control.

The problem is that you now have a conditioned response to stimulation by her. You mind automatically associated her intimate advances with your impendning release. The human body is selfish and can be conditioned and re-conditioned to stimuli. The trick is to learn the number system.

The number system is what I have devised from reading books on tantric sex. Think of a 10.0 as the height of the orgasm, and a 1.0 as a completly flacid state with no sexual stimulation. The numbers 1.0 – 9.9 can be repeated much like riding a wooden roller coaster. The trick is to learn what a 9.0 feels like and to train yourself to respond to it.

At this time, you should switch to other types of sexual activity. Let your penis become flacid and try massages, oral, or other types of sexual activities that do not break the mood, but divert the focus from your penis. After a few minutes, start intercourse again and repeat this cycle. The key to this is the repetition and restraint. Over time, you will be able to get to a 9.1, 9.2, and even to a 9.9 (like I can) before having to stop. I have achieved what is commonly called the male multiple orgasm by practicing this technique.

Intercourse in itself feels great! The inner walls of the womans vagina are very inviting, warm, soft, and the emotional and psychological effects of sex are unmatched; however, the orgasm should not be the goal of sex. The whole experience should be the focus, not the end.

When I was a newbie (actually from age 16 – 19), I couldn’t last more than 10 min on a good day. I met a girl who was very unexperienced and we learned together through books and experimentation. I devised this method and now I can go for hours at a time, with getting to a 9.9 and actually have multiple 9.9 level orgasms. The final 10.0 actually feels more like an 11.0 now. Try this and feel free to pm me for any explanations or further details that you need.