The first night at your place how to create the perfect evening. pairedlife common chest pain

Sometimes having him over to your place for the first time can be a little nerve-racking, but it needn’t be if you are prepared and if you have the right attitude. The last thing you want to do is entertain false expectations in your mind about what constitutes a romantic evening. Forget about that. You’ll only make yourself anxious for no good reason.

Your only goal, at this juncture, is to create a comfortable environment in your home where you linger over your meal, your wine, and your conversation. As an aside, please refrain from inviting a man over to your place early in the relationship. In other words, be selective about who you date and take your time about important decisions.

But back to the matter at hand. You’ve invited him over. Now what? How do you make the night special?


First, get rid of the notion that you’re supposed to burn candlesticks all over the place and have rose petals strewn on your bed. Please do not ever do the rose petal thing! Rather, your objective is to make your home welcoming and your meal appetizing. This isn’t a honeymoon; it’s a date. Dates are for enjoying one another’s company….an opportunity to learn more about places he’s been, what makes him tick and what interests you both have in common. If the chemistry is there, romance will follow.

If you don’t know anything about food, know this. Having a delicious meal is an intimate experience in itself. So even if you’re not the greatest cook in the world, you need to understand that a homemade meal represents love. Luckily for you, there is no way to go wrong with my fail-safe Crock-Pot Lemon Chicken. It takes approximately 17 minutes of kitchen prep work: You chop some veggies, sprinkle some seasoning, plug the cord in the outlet and set the cooker on low. The men in my life really savor this dish, so don’t feel guilty about using such an easy recipe.

On the other hand, if you know how to whip up a delicious meal in no time, then please do so. Just refrain from preparing anything too elaborate; it’s best to keep things light. Besides, you’ll need extra time to paint your toe nails and clean your house for the special night.

Now that you’ve made your house shine and your toenails pretty, it’s time to think about the vegetables. I recommend a fresh spinach salad, tossed in olive oil, balsamic vinegar, pinon nuts, pepper, sauteed red or yellow pepper strips and feta cheese. Prepare the salad 15 minutes before dinner is served. As for the main course vegetable, that’s where the carrots come in. You might also want to whip up a small amount of Basmati rice, with a dollop of butter, as a bed for your chicken breasts. A rice cooker can help you with that.

In short, you must select music that is outside the box and which will easily flow into the evening, beyond dinner and conversation. If it so happens that your date is a strict country fan, just be sure not to include Low Friends in High Places in your playlist. In no way can anyone seriously engage in sensual lovemaking when hearing a song like that in the background. Just saying.

In any event, music is very personal, and we must listen to what we like. The point of Step 2 is to put some imagination into which music tracks lead to thoughtful, intriguing conversation as well as delicious lovemaking. (By the way, if you’re not familiar with Pandora or Spotify, I highly recommend you find out more about their service which easily and intuitively chooses music that speaks to the individual.)

Also keep in mind that instrumental music selections interspersed with a few tracks containing lyrics, tend to work best when planning for a late evening. As we all know, music is song for the soul. Choose accordingly. And please, never play sappy music unless you want your date to run for the hills!

Choosing the right outfit is easier than you think, but never wait until the last minute to decide what to wear! If you wait too long, everything will go haywire. You’ll feel harried; you’ll second guess yourself; you’ll get sweaty and red in the face. What you wear is important, so please choose your outfit at least a day in advance. Okay. Thank goodness we got that straight! (Phew) Now back to the matter at hand…

Your goal is to wear something comfortable, but pretty. For your first evening together, choosing to wear a dress with a touchable fabric is a smart move. Men honestly relish a woman’s femininity, and a dress allows you to show your femininity perfectly. Another excellent choice for the night is a stretchy skirt with a short-sleeve or no-sleeve top. (It doesn’t hurt if the top tends to fall off the shoulders on occasion…if you catch my drift.) The idea, frankly, is to wear something you’ll be able to easily slip out of later.

Yes, your tight jeans and pretty V-neck blouse are awfully cute, but who wants to struggle out of tight pants after a cozy dinner and conversation should you later decide to invite him into your bed? Nobody I know . So, keep your outfit simple. Wear delicate flat sandals. Keep your hair loose. And by the way, don’t forget to wear sexy underwear. Beautiful undies make a man’s heart sing, and a happy man makes for a thoughtful lover. Above all, you want a considerate lover.

The books you own tell a story about your life and your interests. If you happen to own a plethora of romantic paperbacks, you might want to pack them in a box, put them in your closet, and begin reading some classics, instructional how-to books, and a few biographies. Only then can you display your reading material. If you haven’t read a book you choose to display in your bookcase or coffee table and he asks you about it, you’re going to feel awfully foolish when you have nothing to say. In short, never own books for show. Read the books you buy. Let him see what interests you have (besides romance). He will enjoy learning more about the fascinating parts of your personality he didn’t know about before.

Besides, a well-read person is a good conversationalist; a good conversationalist is an interesting person to be around. However, knowing a lot of stuff doesn’t mean you can monopolize the conversation and get away with it. Instead, decide to be a good listener who has the ability to ask thought-provoking questions. In so doing, you can then more intelligently inject the conversation with follow-up, as well as letting him know more about things you’ve learned from books you’ve read and the life you’ve lived.

Here’s a tip: Buy and leaf through The Dangerous Book for Boys by Hal and Conn Iggulden. Place the book on your coffee table. Hal and Conn’s book contains a plethora of wonderful content such as Famous Battles, Juggling, Sampling Shakespeare, Skipping Stones, and so much more. Your date will enjoy leafing through the book while you fuss with your salad before dinner.